New Rules for Love in 2019

New Rules for Love in 2019

1. There are no rules
   1. Everyone wants to tell you your rules. Their rules are not yours to own.
   2. They do not have your experience; your sexual trauma; your faith beliefs; your sexual desires and attractions; your needs. Other peoples rules do not apply to you
2. If its great…great! shut up
   1. Folks we are sharing way too much of our intimate lives
      1. Keep the good stuff near and dear to your heart
      2. Share less, keep more
   2. Protect yourself
      1. Folks are still not being safe.
      2. If you have not established a monogamous relationship, demand safe practices always
      3. Share your doctor. Visit your doctor together
         1. It will bring you closer
         2. It’s a way to create full disclosure
         3. Get beyond the fear
         4. Practice makes healthy

4. Stop stigmatizing people with STI/STD’s
   1. Most of you pretend as if you have never had an STI
   2. Most STI’s are treatable
   3. Don’t blame victims for the people who lied to them
   4. Treat STD/STI’s like a disability and we can truly minimize these pandemics
   5. Plenty of people with HIV/Herpes/ Syphilis have healthy relationships
5. If you don’t want monogamy, stop pretending like you do.
   1. If you want monogamy you must have a discussion about it
   2. Stop assuming because people love you they are monogamous
   3. Don’t be afraid to ask
6. There is no hierarchy between married and single women.
   1. Dear married women, being married does not make you more desirable or better than single women. In fact, many married women suffer in silence a lot more than single women, so stop it!
7. Men stop labeling women as whores, especially when you can’t keep track of how many lovers you have had.
   1. Stop with the sex shaming
   2. You’re an asshole
   3. You’re fragile and insecure
8. Stop shaming people for their sexuality.
   1. Who they love has no impact on you whatsoever
   2. Being gay is not a way to emasculate men. News flash there is no master plan
9. Self Love
   1. Love yourself a little more each day
   2. Don’t expect this to be easy
   3. Find something about yourself to be thankful for
   4. What is your super power(s)?
   5. Find something to do that demonstrates your love for yourself
   6. Add love to your self-diet
   7. Diet on the imposter syndrome