New Rules for Love in 2019

New Rules for Love in 2019

• There are no rules
  • Everyone wants to tell you your rules. Their rules are not yours to own.
  • They do not have your experience; your sexual trauma; your faith beliefs; your sexual desires and attractions; your needs. Other peoples rules do not apply to you
• If its great…great! shut up
  • Folks we are sharing way too much of our intimate lives
  •  Keep the good stuff near and dear to your heart
  • Share less, keep more
  • Protect yourself
    • Folks are still not being safe.
  • If you have not established a monogamous relationship, demand safe practices always
  • Share your doctor. Visit your doctor together
  • It will bring you closer
  • It’s a way to create full disclosure
  • Get beyond the fear
  • Practice makes healthy

4. Stop stigmatizing people with STI/STD’s
   • Most of you pretend as if you have never had an STI
   • Most STI’s are treatable
   • Don’t blame victims for the people who lied to them
   • Treat STD/STI’s like a disability and we can truly minimize these pandemics
   • Plenty of people with HIV/Herpes/ Syphilis have healthy relationships
5. If you don’t want monogamy, stop pretending like you do.
   • If you want monogamy you must have a discussion about it
   • Stop assuming because people love you they are monogamous
   • Don’t be afraid to ask
6. There is no hierarchy between married and single women.
   • Dear married women, being married does not make you more desirable or better than single women. In fact, many married women suffer in silence a lot more than single women, so stop it!
7. Men stop labeling women as whores, especially when you can’t keep track of how many lovers you have had.
   • Stop with the sex shaming
   • It makes you an asshole
   • It comes form a place of fragility
8. Stop shaming people for their sexuality
   • Who they love has no impact on you whatsoever
   • Being gay is not a way to emasculate men. News flash there is no master plan
9. Self Love
   • Love yourself a little more each day
   • Don’t expect this to be easy
   • Find something about yourself to be thankful for
   • What is your super power(s)?
   • Find something to do that demonstrates your love for yourself
   • Add love to your self-diet
   • Diet on the imposter syndrome